find a guy who calls you beautiful
March 14, 2008
find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot,
who calls you back when you hang up on him,
who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat,
or will stay awake just to watch you sleep…
wait for the boy who kisses your forehead,
who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats,
who holds your hand in front of his friends,
who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on.
one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares
and how lucky his is to have you…
the one who turns to his friends and says,
“that’s her!”
~ anon ~
March 15, 2008 at 12:08 pm
wuah…what has happened :) to make you post this beautiful verses? i fail to meet the standard of this post. i feel embarrassed to hold hands in public
April 5, 2008 at 12:37 pm
“Who will call you back when you hang up on him”, that is a joke, no self-respecting male should ever do that. This excerpt should be more explicit: “find a guy who will let you walk all over him”.
If any woman found a man like this, he’s probably gay. Stop living in your fantasy world ladies, come back to planet earth so us men can have you all for ourselves, ahahaha!
October 2, 2009 at 2:09 pm
Oh okay Man. First of all pull your head out of your chauvinistic ass and listen up.
Real men are the men that do these things, real men aren’t the men (like you I am guessing) that classify their women as objects and not real people.
Obviously you are jealous of this authors love for his girl. And the only way you can come out of your self pity is to make fun of them and call him gay.
If you dont agree with his writing, strap your balls on, be a man, and move on. What kind of a man gets on the internet probably drinkin his beer and eatin his hot wings taking a time off from the game to get on the internet to put down someone elses work when the only decent thing you can write about is that your not man enough to make a women feel like she is one in a million. Seriously get a life. I feel sorry for any women that dates you and hopefully she will realize that there are many better men out there then you.
My boyfriend does all of these things and more for me. And all the men that do do this for their girls are more of a man then you will ever be.
October 28, 2009 at 8:45 am
Thank you so much Blueeyes, because I was about to say the same things, but with much more “colorful” word choices. Honestly, that guy is a major dick. I showed my girlfriend this after a friend had sent it to me, and she had this giant smile on and said, “This is completely you!” and now has it on facebook for all her friends to see. Every guy should treat their better half exactly this way and even more.
July 31, 2008 at 8:30 pm
find a woman who will cook and not moan, who will appologise when you hang up on her. who will always give you oral sex even if you havnt washed for a month. a woman who will get you a beer, even at 4 in the morning when she is ill. a woman who will never ask you to clean anything.
October 2, 2009 at 2:14 pm
I feel sorry for you Rob. I really do.
October 27, 2009 at 9:08 am
How sad! You prefer the services of a whore and housekeeper to a life partner and soul mate. You are missing out on so much joy Rob!
August 1, 2008 at 9:09 am
dude. that’s just low, man.
September 12, 2008 at 1:29 pm
I have found a man like that and I am disgusted that you boys think it is gay for a true man to do that for the woman he loves
October 4, 2008 at 11:07 pm
wow. she’s right.
my guy would do anything for me, and obviously there are some boys in this world who could take a leaf out of another man’s book…one who is truly in love.
October 5, 2008 at 11:15 pm
The guys posting here obviously fail as real men. Don’t post here and bash girls out of spite because you don’t live up to this little but very true poem.
They definitely do exist, and they’re not gay I can promise you. If you truly love someone, you do those things for her and I’m glad i found someone who does live up to this:)
Rob, you are pathetic indeed:)
November 22, 2008 at 8:34 am
Good job Stephanie, Kat, and Rose. i have found a guy like that also. he always shows me off to his buddies when i look horrible, and he always calls me back to say he loves me. and i love him with all my heart and would give anything to be with him right now but he is 3,000 miles away. :(
November 22, 2008 at 8:38 am
I love holding hands with the one i love. His hands are so big and i dont know. i just feel amazing and safe when im around him. He puts videos on YOUTUBE saying how much he loves me. all of you should see the song DEAR GOD by Avenged Sevenfold. its an amazing song. And Richard, i love u and will never stop.
December 17, 2008 at 2:42 am
Just to let everyone know, I’ve been this kind of guy and I always get put in the “Just Friends” category. So what do you girls have to say about that?
October 27, 2009 at 9:17 am
I say hang in there. Someone who will value you is out there!
Often girls want this type of man, but because our society has overemphasized male sexuality, many girls believe that their value lies in their looks and how attracted men are to them. often the men they attract that way are not the type to value them or treasure them. Unfortunately it can take some tome for women to grow to the place where they can appreciate and value men like you.
October 28, 2009 at 8:47 am
That’s how I was too man, and I’ve found the one girl that I completely love. She’s absolutely amazing! You’ll find her, you will.
January 6, 2009 at 12:20 pm
I treat my wife fucking fine. I don’t do none of that gay shit. She’s fucking happy, she fucking cums every night. And I’m in love with her. Shut your damn feminist mouthes.
January 6, 2009 at 12:53 pm
Yeah, a guy should at least try to do a few of those things. But sometimes I find that it makes no difference.
Example: I am a man. I was recently in love with a girl. I picked up the check everywhere we went. When she went into one of her moods where the “world was out to get her” and she blamed me for all her problems, I was patient with her, and forgave her. I started taking her to work a lot of the time. When we had sex, it was her way, or no way and I dealt with that and never complained (for the guys reading this post, she got off everytime, or at least claimed to). I told her I loved her and I made sacrifices for her. I may not have been perfect, but I sure as hell tried.
about a month into things, I didn’t have any money on me to buy her a starbucks coffee. She, naturally, went ballistic. A few days later, after she had been snowballing into an increasingly worse mood by the day, she decides to inform me that she slept with another man . . . a satanist in fact (I am NOT making that up). I kept my head and didn’t go fucking insane in my apartment over it, and told her that we could work things out. Today, she is still with said Satanist and I could drop off the face of the earth for all that she cared.
my point: Sometimes putting work into a relationship isn’t worth it, and if ladies want the perfect man perhaps they should try to meet the relationship half way or at least make some attempt to show love in return. Just as a woman shouldn’t be a slave to a man, a man shouldn’t be a slave to the woman. I really get fed up with people posting on sites like this about how their boyfriends who are so awful and don’t treat them right when the woman who have those same boyfriends treat them as walking checkbooks (I realize that by posting on a site like this myself within itself defines irony, but whatever).
Finding the right woman/man? Heh, grab a couple bottles of rum, it’ll be a damn long time before you find that.
October 27, 2009 at 9:20 am
Some men are assholes and don’t treat the women in their lives respectfully, but you bring up a valid point that many women do the same thing. Many of them play games and use people.
Using people isn’t a male or female thing…its a broken people thing. Broken people hurt other people, that’s what they do.
That doesn’t negate the fact that the ideal situation is a relationship where both partners love and respect one another.
January 6, 2009 at 1:02 pm
I’d been raised thinking that way was right. I opened doors, took home roses with no expectations, pulled out chairs in restaurants, held her hand crossing the street.
I treated my wife like it says above, I still love her even though she kicked me out after hooking up with one of my friends. Now nobody speaks to me; friends or family.
And that’s how one woman can destroy a world.
January 6, 2009 at 1:09 pm
Where can I find one of these? Are they just lying around or do you have to win the lottery?
January 6, 2009 at 1:13 pm
Antithesis, i’m sorry that girl treated you that way – no one deserves that. On the other hand, you should have realized in the beginning that she would be that kind of girl by taking all from you and not giving anything in return.
As for number 3 and 4 (rob and “a man”), you just haven’t found the right girl yet that you’d be willing to do that for!
Don’t read sooo much into entry. It’s just conveying how one person believes unabashed affection is shown. everyone has their own ways. geez people. it’s not “feminist” or whatever other extreme word you want to label it. I would hope that girls in love with their guys would do the same/similar things for them.
August 6, 2009 at 5:37 am
Amen…amen and amen.
January 6, 2009 at 1:14 pm
my boyfriend does all of these things for me:)
and i do them all for him too.
love.
January 6, 2009 at 1:30 pm
Yeah Colin, she totally ruined your life. Way to win the Nice Guy(TM) award.
January 6, 2009 at 2:08 pm
If this poem is feminist, I am ashamed. Since when did love have such specific criteria to be met, the failure of which results in a woman’s mental and emotional breakdown? Not to mention the breakdown of her common-sense and maturity?
I would like to believe that this is “one person’s interpretation” but it has the tone of a “message to all women.”
Perhaps if women in our society (not all women, but there are many who do this) stopped playing the “prove you love me with cliche antics” game, they could really meet someone they like and then learn to love them for who they are and how they ACTUALLY show affection toward you.
My BF is a scatterbrained nerd who is crass and says awkward things in public. I am totally crazy about him.
Its nice to be loved and love someone else, and it seems like love is stronger when it is genuine, not when you are trying to re-enact Dirty Dancing or Princess Bride.
January 6, 2009 at 2:49 pm
this poem is obviously not for everyone.
either you like it or you dont…
- “that’s why they make cars in all different colors.”
January 6, 2009 at 3:01 pm
Oh my goodness my boyfriend does all of these things and just reading this poem and realizing that makes me feel even more lucky to have him. He is an amazing guy, and i do just the same for him. He’s absolutely perfect and he deserves nothing but the best. this poem is beautiful, and I feel so happy to have a guy who does all that. =)
January 6, 2009 at 3:05 pm
I found this guy!! And no he is most definatley not gay~ you guys who think this kind of behavior is lame~stupid or “gay” watch out someday you’re gonna be all alone someday~~ OH and by the way he is a navy diver with a seal unit!~ and he is my husband!
January 6, 2009 at 3:08 pm
I think it’s love when the women wants to and does everything mentioned in the poem back for her man.
January 6, 2009 at 3:10 pm
oh and Ssgt Riley!! Clean it up…
and Antitheisis Im sorry it doesnt sound like it was your fault..she needs help~~ or at least a pill!! Not everyone is as manic as she is..male or female..Dont give up.. pretty hard to snuggle with a bottle of rum!
January 6, 2009 at 3:14 pm
This poem is a Myspace staple.
January 6, 2009 at 3:32 pm
Filthy and sexist.
January 6, 2009 at 3:50 pm
This is pure cheese
January 6, 2009 at 3:54 pm
i found this :)
January 6, 2009 at 3:57 pm
This little piece isn’t that bad. It’s sweet. However I would never expect: “who calls you back when you hang up on him” and come on this: “or will stay awake just to watch you sleep” is just creepy.
January 6, 2009 at 3:57 pm
This poem is about idealistic western love based in a long tradition of gallantry, sacrifice and (unfortunately) disney.
though it is beautiful and heart warming I know that the definition it provides is not applicable for most people
Stop analyzing it like it’s the end of the world and to all those who read this and apply it to your life you’re making a horrible decision by limiting yourself to people like me, stereotypical nice guys who in reality are most likely not your primary interested.
It’s not feminist either, feminism is fundamentally about achieving a balance between the sexes. If anything it’s mildly misandristic as it seeks to indenture men to women through a set of unrealistic guidelines and devotion rites.
Generally though, it’s a nice poem. It’s innocent and hopeful, the stuff dreams are made of. Think of it like a dream and then embrace reality, never letting it totally fade away. That’s all poetry is for, to create a place, a smell or feeling. To encapsulate a time or an idea.
No rum, warm sake!
January 6, 2009 at 4:19 pm
jones Says:
January 6, 2009 at 2:49 pm
this poem is obviously not for everyone.
either you like it or you dont…
…I’d have to disagree with the above response. I personally think this is a simple, sweet love poem, but I don’t completely agree with it.
It all has to do with expectations. First of all, expectations are evil. The more expectations you have the more likely you’re going to be let down.
A girl shouldn’t expect her boyfriend to just randomly buy her roses one day the same way a guy shouldn’t expect his girlfriend to volunteer a blow job. Seriously, expectations suck.
Now some of you DO have significant others that are just that great. Good for you. I’d wonder how balanced your relationship is but that’s not my business….
For most of us, its a treat when our boyfriend tries at some romantic gesture or says something very sweet. It doesn’t happen 24/7, and they may forget to open the door for us sometimes, but we know they loves us. It’s just in their own way.
…And their own way may not always be a Hollywood chick-flick romance…..
So, as stated previously, expectations suck.
A girl shouldn’t EXPECT these things. She should be happy and appreciate them when they happen. She should let her guy know how much she loves him, too. If she’s not doing the things he likes, then why should he even attempt at pleasing her?
Give & Take, people.
I’m a die hard hopeless romantic and I liked this poem. But I want to see this poem in a guy’s eyes. I think girls should know what a guy wants to. But in taste, please. Not X-rated. :)
My boyfriend is a tall, lazy nerd who enjoys playing DnD and Starcraft. Sometimes he may play video games a bit too long but he’ll always have time to build a Lego castle with me or watch a movie. He’s completely oblivious sometimes but he knows to get my chocolate when I’m sad and massages me shoulders when I get home from work….sometimes. Like, I said, he’s not perfect, but I know he loves me and appreciates me for ME.
….And I’m the luckiest girl alive.
:)
September 13, 2009 at 6:51 am
expectations are necessary. without expectations, there would be more abusive people in this world. i EXPECT respect and love. and if i dont get that from my relationship, its over. i EXPECT to be treated with love and care. i think every girl has expectations. like most women expect their bfs will be kind and won’t beat them.
everyone needs expectations.
January 6, 2009 at 4:24 pm
true thought!
January 6, 2009 at 4:38 pm
Nice poem ! I really liked it.
I was like that (almost) to a girl. We were together for more than 4 years. But it did not last. Life is sometimes too complicated to explain or understand.
January 6, 2009 at 4:38 pm
Rhiesa spoke more to my heart than this poem. Your review was perfect and I seriously can’t add to it. I know this comment seems pointless, but I just wanted you to know I admired your work:)
January 6, 2009 at 5:41 pm
I’m a women, and I don’t expect that shit. I want a guy who’ll screw me hard and play video games and is nice. I expect him to do little things – hold open doors, let me around his friends, etc. But I sure as hell aren’t going anywhere out of the house in sweatpants.
Maybe I’m just so awesome and don’t expect the world from men because I’m a nerd, and an attractive one at that. Maybe you girls just need to loosen up.
January 6, 2009 at 5:47 pm
Oh my GOD would all of you shut up? Seriously, it’s a stupid poem that someone wrote because they were in love with someone or thought they were. Who cares?
Guys, no one cares if you think other guys are gay. Shut your idiot mouths and go back to being latently homoerotic with your moron friends.
Girls, this poem is a series of occasional sweet deeds that are being rambled off like a grocery list of what to look for. That’s cynical and idiotic. Some guys are sweet some aren’t. If you found one you like, good for you, but no one here cares. If you didn’t and you like this, no one cares.
No one cares about anyone else’s opinions. No one cares what I’m typing right now. And (I’m aware of the irony) sending a two-sentence criticism to some person who doesn’t know you, doesn’t care about you, probably hates you on principle and trying to change his mind when it’s clearly anathema to him and he is offended by the whole concept…
That’s the greatest example of idiocy I’ve ever even seen.
All of you shut your imbecile mouths and go do something productive like killing each other.
January 6, 2009 at 6:12 pm
Ben you sound cranky.
January 6, 2009 at 6:16 pm
Oh and to “that one guy”… being friend-zoned absolutely sucks. I’m apologising on behalf of all women, we make stupid decisions sometimes, we really do. I recently friend-zoned a guy who ticked all the boxes, and frankly I don’t really understand why. I regret it already. lol.
January 7, 2009 at 12:57 am
i have that guy, and we’ve been married for 8 years! i love him more today than i did yesterday and will love him more tomorrow than i do today.
January 7, 2009 at 4:49 am
You girls are full of shit! You’ve got NOOOO idea what you want. You NEVER happy. You will do anything to find a strong alpha “real” man. Than you will do anything to make a doormat out of him. And then when he’s a doormat and jumps through all your hoops you will loathe and discard him for that! You’ve got to be a dumbest dimwit to listen to a girl on how to treat her- she’s GOT NO IDEA!! In my 31 years of vast experience I can tell you only one rule is ROCK SOLID. Listen up!- “WHOEVER CARES LESS- WINS!” That’s right whoever cares/loves less in the relationship, is in control of that relationship. And I don’t want to hear any whining from you chicks- all you interested in is making us go with the program- YOUR program. That’s why you say-”I don’t want a guy who plays games…” What you mean is-”I don’t want a guy who KNOWS how to play games” It’s because YOU play them all the time and afraid to deal with a worthy/knowledgeable opponent. You rather walk all over a chump.
Peace out.
January 7, 2009 at 5:46 am
Max, While you do have a point (most girls don’t know what they want to an extent) we do still want someone who treats us good. We don’t however want a yes man.
We want a “Alpha Male” as you call it. Someone who will not put up with our shit (which we are full of) but at the same time it’s the approch you take. If you are always the one who loves less, you will never find true love, although it really doesn’t sound like you are looking for it.
With women, it’s not a game, more… a test.
Women need security, we want to know you think we are beautiful even when we don’t feel we are. We want to be secure in the fact that even though we get mad, you’ll be there to comfort us and work things out.
It doesn’t make you a pussy, or a floor mat!!
Women really aren’t that complicated, most things a woman will do is a test (whether they realize it or not) of your devotion. Once you pass, you’re in the clear and she will devote herself to you.
A good relationship starts with communication and honesty. If you feel you are being mistreated SAY SO! That is never our intention, especially if we claim to love you.
Once again, WE DO NOT WANT A FLOOR MAT… but, WE DON’T WANT AN ASS EITHER!
It’s all about finding that balance.
By the way ladies, QUIT TESTING THEM!
They never pass!! Instead talk to them (hopes, fears, insecurities). If they love you, they will listen. If for whatever reason you can’t talk to them then you shouldn’t be together, it will just cause you both pain.
Men, you don’t always have to fix everything! Most the time, we just want you to listen and actually hear us. Sympathy if you will. If you are treating your girl like crap, knock it off! She doesn’t deserve it. Neither of you will be happy if you do. If the woman aint happy, NO ONE is happy!
LOVE ISN’T A GAME!!
January 7, 2009 at 5:52 am
Alright, so I didn’t read all the comments (short attention span), but what I read, most of the guys in the beginning are pathetic, Sgt Riley is dead on, as well as the guy with the long story about some Satanist. Yes, I’m a chick, but hey, guys are GUYS who will act as such for a reason. Not giving anyone an excuse to be a coldhearted asshole, but seriously, if I wanted a girl for a partner I’d be a lesbian. What if a guy wrote a poem that said how he wished girls really were? We’d call him a sexist pig. Girls do it and aw it’s sweet. Also, as per “nice guy who is just friends,” I’ve known several of you guys who say that. You’re actually self-absorbed asses. Aaannnywayy.
Ladies: stop being so whiny and dreamy. Men are men, women are women, and it’s selfishness to demand a guy to act how you think he should act.
Guys: same goes to you, I guess, minus the whiny dreamy stuff. Unless you are that, then my God stop that. Wimp.
January 7, 2009 at 7:26 am
Hi,
I am a little disturbed at your optimism. Did you watch too many meg ryan movies?
January 7, 2009 at 11:07 am
Why should anyone NEED a man to call them beautiful? You should know that without having to hear your boyfriend or husband say it. This panders to the age old stereotype that if a man appreciates you sexually, he is not into romantically, and vice versa; better not let him think you’re too into sex; “bad boys” just want to sleep with you; “good boys” are characters in Meg Ryan movies played by Tom Hanks or Bill Pullman, they’ll give you nice tender (but chaste) kisses on the forehead and show you off as a trophy, as the “good girl they want to marry,” to all their friends.
Why can’t you have a guy who thinks you’re beautiful but wants to slam you against a wall, kiss you so hard you nearly cream your panties, grab a handful of your hair, whip you around, yank down your pants and pound the living daylights out of you?
January 7, 2009 at 2:05 pm
I don’t think this is “gay” or “lame” at all. however, I do think it’s complete and utter bullshit. It never gives a single suggestion for what the woman is to do except hang up on him and see if he’s whipped enough to call back. Sure, all that stuff is sweet and nice, but if you’re the kind of selfish bitch that won’t give anything in return, you don’t deserve that guy. For the record, I am that guy, except for the hanging up part, and I’ve only found one or two girls that actually appreciate it, as opposed to those who expect it.
It makes me sick, the way women bitch and moan about being equal, because the truth is, they don’t want equality, they want special treatment. I honestly believe that the vast majority of women in the civilized world wouldn’t reciprocate such displays of affection and it’s pathetic.
Ladies, if you believe chivalry is dead, I can almost guarantee you it’s your own fault, or the fault of those like you, and not your man’s. You gotta show love to get love. Maybe if you’d do the male equivalent of even a few of those things on that list, you’d see a change in the behavior of the man in your life.
January 7, 2009 at 2:08 pm
Also, Cat, marry me. Seriously, I think I love you.
January 8, 2009 at 4:56 am
This was obviously written by a girl who fell into the fairy tale trap. Women today think they are supposed to be swept off their feet. A relationship is give and take…you can’t expect your man to be perfect.
Not to mention…that I’m a girl and I hate when a guy tries to hold my hand in public!
January 8, 2009 at 7:34 am
How lucky am I?!? I have found him and I get to call him my husband!
January 8, 2009 at 10:12 am
I’m surprised Kasey is single, a hot nerd who enjoys her fair share of sex? I’d kill to find a girl like that.
January 8, 2009 at 2:06 pm
So, I’m a female and I find this absurd. I like my boyfriend with a spine thanks.
A compliment is a compliment. Point is it should be sincere. When they call back, catty bitches tear them apart again. I’d drug his water if he stayed up all night to watch me. I don’t want him to DIE in a car accident.
And don’t lie bitches, you probably like sex just as much as your man. Consecutive orgasms. Google it.
January 8, 2009 at 10:51 pm
I have a man Like that and let me tell you it works both ways men and women. I have been with my husband for almost 11 years and it feels like new love every day. We are fast approaching our 5 year wedding anniversary and I am in the process of making it something very special. Men are sensitive creatures once you crack their outter shell. I love my man more and more every day. Actions speak louder than words ;)
January 9, 2009 at 12:15 am
hmmmm..I think that guy you are looking fore…is soooo gay! :(
January 9, 2009 at 1:56 am
Goodness! One or two or TEN bad experiences with women isn’t indicative of ALL women. If you are going to judge all of us or how you should act based on one or two women, you are ALWAYS going to be bitter and alone.
Mr. & Ms. Perfect don’t exist, but Mr.& Ms. Works-hard-at-loving-you-and-treating-you-well do exist.
Remember that all of your relationships are going to fail until one doesn’t. Deciding to be an a-hole (if you’re a man or woman)because someone burned you is only damaging you and your future relationships.
January 9, 2009 at 7:39 am
You are all fags. Its all about the ladies. If they’re happy, you’ll be happy.
January 9, 2009 at 9:50 am
i have dont this many of times but i always get fuckn put down or cheated on or hurt or lied to or used fuck that shit imma just wait n find the right one n not speed anything up i know imma a good guy but i just need to find a girl to be good to me dang then again im still young only 19 i got fuckn time n i guess idk what love really is
January 9, 2009 at 9:58 am
I feel this way about my wife, and I tell her everyday. Why wouldn’t you tell her if you were lucky enough to be married to her?
January 9, 2009 at 10:29 am
i am this man but i cant find a women that will appreciate this :(
January 9, 2009 at 10:32 am
I have a boyfriend and in the beginning of our relationship, I began to expect him to do certain things and not really doing anything for him in return. I think that I was starting to form my love life around romantic novels, disney, and most of all–chick flicks….and my boyfriend told me about my problem. So I fixed it. The best thing to do is to expect nothing or very little, and there is no way that you can be unhappy. You know you’re in love when you want to do something sweet because it will make him happy–not because you feel obligated to.
On an unrelated note, I also don’t understand why girls don’t like video games!!!! They’re freakin’ awesome!!!! I love Mario Kart, Supersmash Brothers Brawl and Diablo II!!!!!!!!!!!!1
January 9, 2009 at 10:37 am
Oh and for the guys who let women walk all over you, tell them to stop, and make them see how much you are sacrificing for them. If they can’t appreciate that, then you should be with someone else…seriously, don’t waste your time with bitches, you’re gonna’ get hurt.
January 9, 2009 at 12:00 pm
THis describes my last relationship, unfortunately she left me. So, where does that leave us.
January 9, 2009 at 3:45 pm
wow, the best part of this poem is the really long list of comments:) this was great, thanks
January 10, 2009 at 4:31 am
A little bit shallow, perchance, certainly not feminist, although the “calls you back” thing is a little manipulative, but above all else, doesn’t deserve all of the hype and the hatefulness it has garnered. I found it on StumbleUpon, and I bet half of the other commenters did too…
January 10, 2009 at 4:27 pm
hhahahahah, this is my a wonderful source of fucking comedy. Stop worrying about love and shit, live and let live. You do it once and high school get dumped then sleep with randoms till you are 27, it’s great for life experience, get married, die. That love shit slows you down…
January 12, 2009 at 9:11 am
This verse is beautiful and oh so true. Unfortch, I met this man and he was all the wonderful things that you describe…until he drank
January 13, 2009 at 10:28 am
Ben, you’re absolutely correct. I’m tired of the insipidity of the mouth-breathing masses. You people should all go kill yourselves.
January 13, 2009 at 11:27 pm
Don’t let your girl play those games
where she piss and moan and you she blames
What every girl will want and nead
Is a real man to take the lead
They games she plays is all a test….
so smarten up, don’t act like the rest…
Be a man, put her in her place,
Or show the door to her face..
In other words don’t be a wuss … women walk all over wussy little men….they love to be told no you can’t have that no, i ain’t buying that, yes i am going out with the boys….
No watch all the ladies react, but they all have gone out with Mr Asshole and will continue to be attracted to that type — it is in their genes…
January 17, 2009 at 7:54 pm
I can honestly say I do everything on the list except hold hands (I do hold hands but not very often)
I think everything mentioned is just the right thing to do :D ps.I’m not gay
January 17, 2009 at 11:27 pm
I hate to burst bubbles but would you not be just aswell to find a slave. Hanging up on someone and expecting them to call you back is pretty shallow. Dont get me wrong,the guy sounds like a sweetheart but most women would use those qualities as a doormat.
January 19, 2009 at 2:38 am
I have done all these things and the thought of guy don’t do it for me.
Keep them ladies happy and you’ll be happier for it guys!
If she walks on you she hasn’t got a clue what a real man is.
There’s nothin’ sexier than a happy lady!
January 19, 2009 at 4:44 am
i’ve read almost all the comments and its a pot full of opinions of all sorts…some people agree with the poem…both guys and girls…some disagree, some don’t give a crap and wishes everyone would just die along with all the “love” talk…
well here’s my part…if you don’t want to hear it…you really don’t have to read it..if you read it then say you don’t care then uhh…that just makes you dumb.
I am that guy…with the exception of the call back thing…you hang up on me…i never call you again :) simple. Yeah I’ve been through the whole love thing. I onced loved a girl so much that i randomly wrote her poems just to give her an idea of how much i loved her…she cried for everyone of them…joyful tears though :D. She wasn’t perfect and neither was i…but that made me love her all the more.
We had the best relationship two people in love can ask for…but in the end…like most “nice” guys…she preferred me as her friend…and well…i guess i let her know in the nicest way possible that she can kiss my ass :D
Cuz well..i was always there for her…the good times and the bad…then when i noticed i was putting in more effort for her then she was for me and i spoke out about it she decided that well…atleast i had my fill of this guy and suggested that we be friends. That was a bowl full of pain but that’s life. I won’t label all girls ungratefull b**** that don’t know what they want just because of her…but i would be more careful.
January 19, 2009 at 4:59 am
Very nice poem! Could be more complicated and humorous.
January 19, 2009 at 6:35 am
haha Damn people.
Everyone is different, some girls like this some girls don’t.
If you did this to a girl and she broke up with you, shes does not have this view point.
Another girl might like this, then that is her viewpoint.
You know, sometimes you try too hard and automatically think that this is what every woman wants when obviously it isn’t. And that is the simple explanation of all your damn problems. Now, get on with your lives. =)
January 20, 2009 at 4:59 am
If anybody really cared about that stuff I wouldn’t be single. Unless you can talk easily and flex impressively then just sit in a corner and get used to it.
January 22, 2009 at 4:57 pm
Destiny, Thank you for a piece of your thought,- most of it was on target. The truth is I’ve ended long term relationship three months ago. It’s a lot harder than I thought it would be- the world of pain. I guess I didn’t “pass the test” as you say.
January 23, 2009 at 1:19 am
It’s far too easy to come on some anonymous website and spout drivel to anyone who stumbles across it. I’m not talking about the poem, either, though that level of saccharine insipidity has been known to cause diabetes in dead people.
No, the back and forth debate of unqualified, unimaginative, far too smug individuals is among the greatest proofs of the decline of the human spirit and intellect.
Guys, if you want to get the girl of your dreams, ignore this poem in its entirety. Every person is different, but girls almost universally respond to confidence, affability and not giving all the decision-making power in the relationship to the girl before the relationship ever starts. “Can I buy you a drink?” More like, “Can I pay you to spend time with me.”
Be yourself insofar as you shouldn’t lie about who you are or what your interests are. But be a little more confident than you think you deserve. Be more teasing and put women on less of a pedestal. They’re just people. Here’s a novel thought: Talk to them like they’re people instead of objects to be won.
Girls, if you want guys to behave like the content of this poem, stop responding to the assholes who tear you down a little bit. Stop being intrigued by the guys you can’t trust all the way. Stop being attracted to the cocky morons who know exactly how to treat you to get what they want.
I’ve been on both sides of this equation, by the way. Had a few relationships that ended in disaster when I was a very nice guy. So I tried being an asshole and had more interest than I knew what to do with. Regardless of what girls claim intellectually, the reality of the situation is that you respond to confident assholes who make you a little unsure of yourself.
January 24, 2009 at 11:25 am
I’ve married 20 years. It would be nice for a woman to find a man that treats her nice. All i wanted from a woman were the same things. I ended up with a woman that has made me look forward to my death. All these poems about how a man should treat some lady….. damn.
When a man becomes some woman’s knight in shining armor and caries her standard. She shoots arrows in his back and belittles him.
my armor is rusty and full of holes… not so friendly fire.
Dont preach to me ladies. Most of you will only deal in misery.
January 25, 2009 at 2:03 am
Beautifully said my friend
January 25, 2009 at 4:02 am
Hahaha. Don’t be so pathetic. It’s your life, if you don’t like something about it CHANGE IT!
Divorce, separate do whatever makes you happier with your life. The last thing you should do is bitch and put every other woman into the same category just because you made the wrong choice.
February 10, 2009 at 8:01 am
My man treats me like the poem, but he’s not a rug. We both pay for everything, not just him, we both hold each other’s hands and show each other off. Every time I shave my legs he puts lotion on them, he comes home from a long day of work and I have dinner ready for him and a clean home and I cuddle him to help him relax. If I work, he cleans for me. He treats me like a queen, I treat him like a king. Equality is what is important – if a guy thinks his woman is demeaning him or emasculating him – she is a psycho b*tch and he needs to leave her. If you are the one paying for everything and she freaks out at you for not paying – well, don’t ignore the signs of crazy psycho b*tches. They try to show you who they really are (a crazy psycho b*tch), and when you don’t realize it until they sleep with ten other guys and you finally find out, that is YOUR fault. It’s not because you’re too nice, it’s because you didn’t set up boundaries, you didn’t set up a relationship based on equality, and you wanted to stay in a relationship with someone who was obviously unhinged and evil. Have some self-respect!!
Guys are on here complaining that they’re nice to their ladies and their ladies are mean, but what they described was being lame. If my man did everything I said and it was my way or no way, he’d be lame. I’d punch him in the non-existent balls, and he wouldn’t mind because he would be f-ing lame. But if I am being unfair are mean or whatever, he will tell me, not just let me do what I want, and I’ll apologize and strive to be better. Neither one of us is perfect, but that doesn’t matter if we both desire to build each other up and to love each other in a self-respecting way – self-respecting in that, sure we may mess up, but if I’m cheating on him or if he’s hitting me we wouldn’t accept that crap from each other!!!
And guys wanna say that being nice ends in disaster but being a jerk wins the girl – evolutionarily being a jerk may work with a lot of women because alpha males tended to be confident jerks and they were genetically desirable. Being a jerk doesn’t make a happy relationship for either party nowadays, however. Being a pushover doesn’t end well, either.
I may have only been with my man for five years, but I know we’re going to last because we respect each other and ourselves. If we have a problem we tell each other, we don’t just hide it. Maybe I don’t know anything about anything, but I know that neither my man nor myself are complaining about how we treat each other, and we certainly are not complaining about this poem!
February 21, 2009 at 2:53 pm
And yet you took all that time out of your paradise to slum it with us idiots. That’s kind of you.
Being in a loving, unselfish relationship is great. Once you’re there, trying to make the other person as special as you think they are is great.
If you walk around acting like the guy in the poem, you will fail at life.
Self-confidence, self-respect, and a healthy dose of self-centeredness would do wonders for most people in the world. That’s rational self-centeredness, by the way; the kind that says rationally the self has to come first at the end of the day.
Telling people that dating someone who turns out to be a crazy psycho bitch is their own fault is like saying going out on a date with a guy who turns out to be a rapist is the girl’s own fault. You should leave someone who excoriates you or emasculates you, but often there’s little way of knowing what type of person someone TRULY is until you’ve spent some time with them.
There are risks inherent in being social and to trivialize the hurt and negative experience of others because YOU’VE been fortunate enough to find someone whom you both love and respect and vice versa, well that’s just a whole lot of something not very complimentary.
Good for you for finding someone. Shame on you for your blatant and narcissistic insensitivity.
September 13, 2009 at 12:14 am
I am a man like that, and my last girlfriend ended up hating me because of it. :(
September 13, 2009 at 7:06 am
I found him!
September 17, 2009 at 2:40 pm
for those guys who think this poem is stupid obviously have never felt real love cause once you have all that will make sence and for you ladies keep looking you’ll find him some day. PS this is a beautifull poem
September 18, 2009 at 11:41 am
You Stupid Little Boys Need To Grow Up…This Is What A Man Does When He Is In-Love…The Hanging Up Part Is A Little Over Board…But I Have This Man…And No…I Dont Walk All Over Him…Its Called Respect And Love For One Another!
September 20, 2009 at 9:17 pm
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October 7, 2009 at 11:14 am
Every single line of this poem is bullshit and offensive. Every single one except the very first one.
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find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot,
- the least offensive line is still not universal. Sometimes girls want to feel sexy and hot instead of lovely and beautiful.
who calls you back when you hang up on him,
- Because girls love clingy, pansy-ish guys and guys love emotional abuse.
who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat,
- This implies all sorts of weird things
or will stay awake just to watch you sleep…
- creepy, obsessive, stalkerish behaviour. Two months later, they’ll find your body.
wait for the boy who kisses your forehead,
- I think most girls want to be kissed on the lips, frankly and maybe some other places. Forehead is occasional but is also patronizing and paternal.
who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats,
- because no girl is self-conscious when wearing her frumpiest clothes. That’s when they WANT to be shown off.
who holds your hand in front of his friends,
- because the love you share isn’t enough unless you make people uncomfortable by being blatant about it. Just hit them in the face with a used condom. It amounts to the same thing.
who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on.
- so he’s either an idiot or you waste thousands of dollars on products that do nothing.
one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares
- because there’s no way for you to know if he doesn’t say it again and again. Forget actions speak louder than words. Fuck actions. Words are the way to go.
and how lucky his is to have you…
- because you settled
the one who turns to his friends and says,
“that’s her!”
- because nothing says love like objectifying people and talking about them like they’re not there.
Fuck this nonsense.
October 17, 2009 at 6:29 am
Sincerely women, you are all fucked up in the head. I agree with you BBKEYS.
October 12, 2009 at 6:05 am
lovely piece of work…
i am a guy
its 3.30 in the morning and i am not able to sleep all cuz my baby isnt with me
she is in another country miles away from me and i miss her so much…
the worst thing is we cant contact each other thru phone…all we have is yahoo messenger we have a fixed time to meet but i always come on in gaps of 15 minuted and check if shes on….
i miss her so much i just wanna hold her hands and tell her how much i love her….
the is the best thing thats happened to me and the strangest thing is…. shes 10 years older than me…
yet we love eavh other a lot
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October 12, 2009 at 1:18 pm
The dude up there is right,
“This excerpt should be more explicit: “find a guy who will let you walk all over him””.
I agree with what the ‘message’ of this excerpt says, find a guy who isn’t all about your looks, and even though in a perfect fantasy, nobody cares about looks, the sad truth in the matter is looks do count, and a lot.
All the “hot” women will get every guys attention whether they admit it or not, its our nature, but all we see is a piece of meat to fuck, nothing more. Who we stay with, and who we love, depends on YOUR traits, YOUR personallity, what YOU can offer us.
This is true for both male and female, but males do consider sexual acts a big part of your traits, not to be a slut, but just a slut to us.
Think before responding, think hard, because who wants to date someone that constantly expects you to be better than you can be, and to devote your whole life to this persons existence. We all have needs, so be fair, treat people as you want to be treated.
October 20, 2009 at 7:47 am
This is the saddest think on the internet. Someone wants to say something nice and true and all it does is make ppl act stupid and angry. I don’t think that was the purpose of this and I think u all should keep your negative opinions to yourself because the world would be a better place if u did!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
October 26, 2009 at 8:04 pm
this is so sweet…
but a guy who does this must really like a girl.
and why do people have such negative opinions about this x)
PS. i love you Bella =)