well i’m thinking, who reads this blog anyway…
a coupla days ago, a friend called a team i belong to for a makan session at some fancy place. its suppose to happen soon lah. but that it not the point. thing is, he invited everyone in the team, except for one of the teammates who was deliberately left out.
that dude who was left out is the oldest among us, i think. he is what anyone would call the pakcik alim of the team. don’t get me wrong, he does not go around preaching politics and stuff. its just that he has his own opinions about stuff and to me kan, that is perfectly fine. it is even okay to talk about it sometimes, as long as he does not shove it down our throats, and he doesn’t. and to me, that is okay. i actually respect that kind of sharing. hear him out and then make up your own mind about things, you know. and he is not the kind that goes on and on and on about it. he is just your typical conservative.
and the last few makan sessions, we did invite him, but he did not come either. and for that, it really does not matter, i think. i believe that different people have different ways of bonding and that is fine. yamcha sessions work for some people, others have their own way of keeping in touch with friends. lagi-lagi, for family people. dengan anak bini and all. i know a wagon load of people who seem to have disappeared off the face of the planet lepas kawin. its life, you know.
but it does not mean you are not part of the team. things change, but i think it is n everyone’s effort not to give up on each other. so even if sebelum ni he has never come for any of the makan sessions, it is not fair to assume he is gone and just leave him out of it. who knows what he’s facing in his life and for all you know, one of these days he might just turn up. and even if he turns up with all his wacky opinions, its okay. because we were all part of something. and you know, we could have had someone a hell load more gung-ho than him. someone who actually picked fights, that kind of dude.
even conservatives are people too. enjoys spicy food. enjoys rock and roll music. has an fb account. if you just get to know him, he’s alright. can you imagine how it would be like if this guy finds out that everyone else is invited except him? even if he was not planing to come anyway, it hurts tau. it would hurt firstly that he was not invited. and it would also hurt that everyone else who went had a great time and did not tell him either. i really would not want to be him in this predicament. i always believe that faith in people means bringing people closer together no matter what it takes. not pushing people away. not making assumptions. not severing ties.
purposely singling him out just for being different is not cool.